Be Selfish

The word Selfish has gotten a negative connotation over the years, but I tell you if we can be selfish enough to carve out time everyday to spend time with God, and allow Him to pour into to us, so we can get every bit of wisdom that He wants to impart to us in each season of our lives; that selfish move will be for the betterment of us and anyone we come in contact with.

For one who is connected to the Power that creates heaven and earth, God, is more powerful than million and with that connection is the only way we can truly help ourselves and others.

Outfit head to toe: Target


In the in between

It has been a while since I’ve written a blog post. I’ve been in this in between place, still is but I was inspired to write this post so here I am. I don’t know if the traditional blogging is for me anymore however I am still finding my place. Everything has become so money driven that you don’t know who is authentic and who is not.

I am at a point where I just want to live my life to continually surrender to the Power greater than me Who lives on the inside of me. I am definitely not the woman who started blogging years ago, she no longer exist. But by grace I am growing into the woman God says I am.

Working on/in me was/is much more rewarding than blogging constantly to keep up with trends. Its funny how much I’ve learned about myself when got rid of all the distractions, buried feelings and the unhealed wounds came to the surface and released.

As someone who grew up in church, I started 3 years ago to intentionally find out who God is for me, not the God my parents and my church told me about. As I am learning Who He is I am learning who I am, and discovering who I am, meant shedding a lot of perspectives, fears, people, feelings, opinions and things even my personality that I have been shaped by my past experiences had to go. Crucifying the flesh is not easy, sometimes it really feels like you are dying but its the only way to live in the Spirit, the only way to grow and i am determine to grow.

I decided to just stop listening to all the chatter about my personal preferences, and instead, start the willful practice of accepting what the flow of life was presenting me and acknowledge Him in all I do. So in the in between I’ve chosen to intentionally and deliberately trust God with my life, and when/if I miss the mark, I chose Him again, my goal is to never stop choosing Him over and over again.

Hope the woman God is creating me to be, will inspire you to also do the work in you with His help. Christianity is not about behavior modifications it’s about transformation, and grace empowers us to change.

See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. Isaiah 43:19




Jumpsuit: Forever 21

Top: H&M  



This Year was a year of spiritual growth. Lessons learned:

1. The cross is the measuring stick of God’s love. Period! Not doctrine build by other people experiences. 

2. I don’t have to acknowledge the enemy all I have to do is continually submit to God and he will flee

3. Do not let other people experiences, my past make me doubt the certainty of God’s Word

4. The gospel is not an argument, not a debate it’s to be announced, declared as absolute Truth 

5. Do not tolerate fear, no matter how small it is 

6. Fear is present when you are not sure how valuable you are to God and you are not fully grounded in love

7. Relationship with the Father is key to everything 

8. My heart is free even when my mind is racing 

9. Do not to give up who I am because of an experience instead of Truth 

10. God is good, God is love and He cannot lie. 

11. Every moment I have the ability to yield to love 

12. Detach and check in with the power within. The Holy Spirit will lead to all truth 

13. I have to know God’s character to trust Him

14. I can train myself to always run to Jesus first

15. I can’t heal outside without healing inside first

16. The Word is Truth, not feelings, emotions, circumstances,news or experiences

17. Don’t let life be louder than Truth

18. Never let sin against me produce sin in me

19. Hang my feelings on a wall, no matter how I feel do the Word of God and let faith do the work for me 

20. I wasn’t saved for blessings. I was saved for transformation and out of the transformation comes blessings

  • Jumper: Marshalls (Gifted)
  • Dress: Forever 21 (Gifted)
  • Sweater: H&M
  • Jeans: AE
  • Shoes: old
  • Booties: Forever 21
  • Fur Scarf: Target 

The little off Shoulder dress

  • Hope everyone enjoyed their weekend and looking forward to 4th of July.

Today’s look is a sexy little off shoulder dress perfect for brunch, dinner date or a BBQ. I am not to big on off the shoulder dresses, but I really wanted to try it and this dress was perfect way to get my gingham fix while trying the off shoulder trend. I love that is flowy and light weight.

Thanks for stopping by and happy 4th of July y’all.

Dress: boohoo

Second chances


Today I am sharing a vulnerable side of me in hope it will encourage someone. Getting a second chance at love is something I wrestle with a lot. My negative thought process is: I had a chance and I missed the mark; how dare I ask for another chance when they are people who haven’t had a  chance yet. But this morning the Holy Spirit whispered to me Christ died for second chances so don’t let religion, people unbeliefs and experiences taint God’s goodness to match your insecurity. God is good God  but the thing is most people process God’s love through human eyes, understanding, perspectives and own limits. 

I  decided to put in God’s hands and say Father my heart is a mess come in Jesus love the guilt, shame and regret out of my heart and make me whole. 

About my look: I thought I was done with gingham until I saw this dress and it was under $25 dollars. It just so elegant and perfect for this weekend. 

Dress: Target, Who What Wear 

Shoes and bag: Target 

Fourth of July look

Happy hump day y’all. Who else is excited for the long weekend full of picnics, BBQ, hangouts with family and friends. This look is perfect for a pinic. The dress is light weight, the peplum and pearls add a little sophistication to it. I paired it with some red and white boat shoes to keep with the fourth July colors. The dress has plenty of room to eat as please without worried about a food belly… hahaha, looking cute and eating well is my goal this weekend.

Dress: Primark 

Boat shoes: Primark

Hat: Target

Pinic basket: Target 

The wrap shirt

Oh Happy Monday y’all!

Hope everyone had a great weekend. I am so excited for a new week. The subtle lessons, the blessings and the change that comes in the process. I am learning to love it all. I am learning to understand inconveniences are divine interruptions to put me back on track. I am learning to  F L O W intentionally. 

About the look: this is one my favorite purchase for the summer. It’s this gingham wrap top. It’s classy and sexy. I paired it with some ripped white jeans for a more dress down look. 

Top: The loft

Jeans: FashionNova

Bag & Sandals: Target 

Gingham shirt dress

I am learning just because something is working for someone doesn’t mean it’s biblical. Just because it’s biblical doesn’t mean the circumstances will be the same for you. Other people’s life shouldn’t be a formula, it should be an encouragement to keep trusting God for your potion. God is no respecter of men but we have to remember that He will do it in His own way and timing. I am learning not covet other people’s breakthroughs, blessings or deliverance process and allow God to give me His custom-made blessings that He has for me since the beginning of the world. I am learning that my blessings can only fit mean and all I have to do its trust.


There will be times when you will have to give up your dreams and desires, but the Lord will place within you His own dreams and His desires for your life. The time is NOW


About my look: I have 3 gingham pieces in my summer wardrobe. This shirt dress is the second one. Nothing like a shirt dress in the summer and the lace details make it look soft.






Dress: Primark 

Off shoulder denim dress

I am learning to take one day at a time. I grew up hearing that phrase but never really applied it to my life. Trusting one moment at a time can be challenging. Life can be so overwhelming, but I am learning in every moment I can choose to trust what the Word say, and if I am having a hard time to trust, I tell God exactly how I feel and ask Him for help. I am learning to be totally be vulnerable about my feelings with Him. I’ve learned yes, the Bible is true but believing is a process, why? because we’ve been trained the opposite, the more you hear it, the more you believe it. I’ve learned to give myself a break to let The Holy Spirit work in me. I’ve learned that renewing my mind is an on-going process, its not like a college degree once I have it that’s it. I’ve learned that every day, every minute, every moment I get to choose again and again. Some days, some moments I make better choices than others, but now I allow Grace to massage me back to place.


Now let’s talk about today outfit. I like the cold shoulder trend (not my favorite) but I still wanted to try it. I figured why not kill 2 birds with one stone, because a denim dress is a must have in my summer wardrobe, the cold should added some spice so this dress was great combo.







Dress: Boohoo 


For the love of gingham! this trend is extremely popular this season again and I can see why, it’s very  elegantly chic. You can do a shirt, dress, pants or skirt. It makes every outfit look like you really tried. I paired my gingham skirt with my blessed tshirt for tshirt Sunday at church.

We are so blessed but sometimes we can caught up in material things or let our feelings get the best of us, that we take our blessings for granted. Today let’s be intentional, let’s focus on how blessed we are and let’s choose to be grateful. Happy Tuesday!






Top: Amazon

Skirt: H&M